Hello Folks I am Brian - Helenka's chosen baby brother and you may have seen me mentioned many times over the years through her blog entries.

Just wanted to write and let everyone who follows or reads her daily journal that unfortunately Helenka passed away suddenly yesterday morning (January 4th 2021).

As you can imagine I am in a state of shock as she was my best friend and big "sister" - family is family no matter if you are related or not.

She and I had known each other for more than 30 years and boy did we have many adventures. She was known to many as the Queen of Outer Space - such as on this blog, and I the Ambassador to Risa (Star Trek fans will get this reference).

We met at a local Star Trek fan club here in Toronto (Idic/uss Hudson Bay), ventured to Toronto Island for picnics and played naughty scrabble, She took me to my first Pride and we both were on MCC Toronto floats a few times - she just loved the church, she attended Toronto Trek conventions (a locally loved Star Trek convention of the time), had many many hosted dinners at each other places, She also attended Out and Out's annual Jamboree a couple of years, we cooked and baked together (she made me a Titantic supper once - a fond memory), had a love of high teas Shangri La was where she wanted to go this year - and I will of course be going there sometime in the future now.

She was also a prolific writer of sci-fi fan fic called slash and kept this daily blog of her activities.

We dreamed, made big plans, laughed and enjoyed visiting each other (for years weekly).

Before Christmas I got to see her through the screen door and dropped off some food she requested, and I made her some of my bread creations (bagels and a loaf of levain bread) along with cookies (I know she mentioned this in a previous blog entry).

Just last week we had a Zoom video call prior to New Year's and that was the last I will have seen her.

She was loved by me and I told her so many many times.

I know she will be missed by many people - though I will miss her the most.

Live Long and Prosper my Queen of Outer Space!

Brian
The good: sleeping all the way to 10:38.

The excellent: getting an eVite from Brian for a zoom get-together, set for 1:30. Eek. I had to hurry to get ready in time.

The excellent: finding out completely by accident - when I grabbed the iPad by the upper right corner = how and where certain control buttons were revealed.

Everything after that was a disaster as I headed to bed to try to sooth the pain. I also tried the long fanfic reading as a distraction and my usual TV shows. Now I'm just hanging on for midnight.
Even worse with temperature fluctuations. Last night, I was so cold, I was shivering and my teeth actually were chattering. It made no sense as I was cocooned in my woolen capelet.

Today I went through a feverish spell which was equally baffling, but I turned the heat off. To add to the yuckiness, I threw up. Sigh. So, it seems the only thing I can keep down is SuM's homemade shortbread. Luckily, my vision was excellent yesterday and decent today, as I've been engrossed in a multi-fandom crossover fic of over 100K words. Getting close to the end. And I had the company of my fave TV shows.

I was delighted to receive two pieces of mail: holiday cards from church-John (the first time he's done that) and one from my "Auntie Marilyn". I think it's wiser for me to thank them tomorrow - hoping I'm feeling better. ::crosses fingers:: Some solid sleep should help, too, as I've been up early reading, then sleeping for a couple of hours, then u[p again, yadda yadda.
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( Dec. 25th, 2020 10:20 pm)
Oops. Sorry, I nodded off there - quite often today. Well, considering I had eggnog with sprinkles and a couple of shortbread cookies for brekkie, it's no wonder I had an extended nap in the afternoon, waking up shortly before our movie night was supposed to begin.

Last night, I watched this week's epi of Disco which was very weird and troubling. This morning, I opened my two gifts from SuM and S. I guess I shouldn't have been surprised they gave me two boxes of chocolates, each from a different ::adopts a snooty tone:: "chocolatier"; the second box is actually a dessert selection.

Anyway, I took my pills and joined then shortly after 7. They served pumpkin pie with whipped cream and tea. This movie was called "Holiday Season" with Drew Barrymore; it seemed to deal with the conflict extremely quickly so it could tie up all the ends in a big fake bow! Oh, well, at least the pie was really good.

Earlier in the day, I'd sent out oodles of emails to friends and chsen family. That was nice.

Anyway, I'm going to try to watch tonight's news if I can stay awake. Merry weird Christmas to all.
With that intro, you may be sure that I did little decorating, other than putting the summer flowers into storage and removing the lovely scarves from the bathroom door. Well, there's always tomorrow.

First, I had to be dressed to wait for my food delivery because I was expecting my surprise gift bag. Oh, it certainly contained surprises. I'll post separately of the contents. The delivery volunteer was even wearing a hat - I presume Santa's as I couldn't see, and she was definitely jovial.

After that, I had to wait for Brian to arrive with his delivery of goodies. I had the phone turned off, but managed to intercept a call from my former group's co-leader who was calling to wish me a happy Christmas. And then Brian showed up. He's so silly. He threw in items from his pantry, as well as a "sliced" loaf of round bread, four bagels, cookies, and his special Newfie snowballs.

After he left, I had to send my thank you email to the meals administrator, thanking her for her thoughtfulness in a year when it must have been much more difficult to secure donations on behalf of all of their clients.

I'd changed my mind about having a movie night tonight, so joined SuM and S. at 7, bringing treats with me. We exchanged gifties, nibbled on Brian's baked goods, and drank peppermint tea while watching "Ma Raimey's Black Bottom". After the sugar rush (the cookies had been my supper), I bonelessly returned to my space, to relax and watch TV.

I'm so ready to slide into bed, with not only decorating but also all my planned emails to friends. ::waves hand languidly:: Nighty-night.
Once again, all my plans were in vain, as I did … nothing. I just didn't feel like it: partially from pain, and partially from lack of motivation. Sigh. SuM popped her head in to ask if I wanted to do another Movie Night tomorrow, but I felt so listless, I declined.

The bright lights? I'd emailed Brian to ask if he could do some personal frivolous food shopping and it fit into his schedule to do it today and make a delivery tomorrow afternoon. That was wonderful news. I also received my annual Christmas email from my childhood friend Danny. As she and I had been in touch a couple times during the year, there was less urgency to share everything. I sent her my wishes for the new year. Watched my usual TV, including the beginning of two weeks of retrospective Jeopardy!, the first show featuring Ken Jennings approaching the 2 million mark in winnings.

Now, let's bring on tomorrow's goodness.
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( Dec. 14th, 2020 11:28 pm)
… doesn't deserve to have any ink spilled in description. But it was grotesque. And I've nodded off a couple times during the day in order to make up for missing sleep.

The only good thing was receiving a card from my sis RS. Alas, because of my incompetent vision today I couldn't tell what was on the cover or written inside. I'll try again.

As diversions from pain, there was reading fanfic and watching a touching epi of tonight's Bull. Really … awwwww. Right now, I'm fading fast so had better press Post.
HPCP;ATE. lots and lots of glorious chocolate! So, Brian and I agreed that he would phone me at 5:30 p.m. Early on, I allowed (uh, begged) him to possess my computer, because my vision had colour but was very fuzzy. So he took over and we went through two sites, one in TO and my original fave in Niagara. Because I wanted everything(!), that's what I'm getting. I'll just have to wait for the free delivery.

After that, he fixed one of my issues with my Office suite. After that, I mentioned my expired parking permit. Instead of dealing with it on my computer, he said he'd d/l it and fill it out with me over the phone, then print it and mail it to me. Whew, that's a load off my mind. He's also planning to make a - sigh - contactless delivery of baked goods (by him, natch). Then we'll look at each other longingly - him outside and me inside through the window - hoping for when we'll be able to get together and travel once again. We got off the phone at exactly 8.

I had some other lovely news earlier. The blind group's secretary phoned me and said there's a $50K grant that's being disbursed to people affected by the pandemic. She remembered that I'd lost the use of my magnification software, so I should apply to get a bland new version. Hmmm.

Then, in the evening, one of the group's members earned from the Prez that the wee winter survival kits were my idea, so she sent me a lovely thank you. I replied to her, saying there are a lot of cases of paying it forward in our community and that I hope it continues.

In other non-news, I slept well (until 9:30) but was in pain for most of the day. Sigh. Watched some TV including news and am about to watch Young Sheldon. And, finally, it's almost time for pills, so I'm grateful for that.
And shredded my abs that are present only during muscle spasms. But I feel terrific (and have to hope for a lot of healing overnight).

I went to bed at 1:30. Nothing new there. But I was so not a happy campy to wake up at 4:55. Sigh. Because of the pain, I spent half the day lying on my back and catching up on two weeks of Wheel of Fortune, hoping for a good distraction. It was … adequate.

When I finally felt a little better, I tackled the steam cleaning. Did the two major areas (kitchen/desk and entry/dining table). But the muscles were screaming at me so I'll do the bathroom tomorrow. Then, after another rest, I put out the Christmas bed linens. No, I wasn't doing my muscles any favours there, either. Because the bed is wedged into a corner, the only way I can put a fitted sheet on is to start on the farthest corner, lying diagonally on the mattress, Go on. Imagine it and have a laugh at my expense!

I also fluffed up the comforter and my penguin fleece in the dryer. Oh, yes, it was definitely cozy.

I checked on FB and saw that Brian had posted the memory of his Victorian tea with Peter and me. You can bet that, when this is all over, we are going to party like it's - uh - 2021!!! I suggested we should party over Zoom and said I was decorating, even if only to lift my spirits. Anyway, I need pills and bed and maybe even a piggy and formerly blind old tiger. Yup. Sounds good to me!
… don't stand a chance, withering under the glare of a body wracked in pain. Sigh.

At least I slept well, waking up at 9:30. But, as the hours slid by, the pain intensified, not releasing its hold on me until around 9. So the only chore I managed to do was clean the large mirror over the fireplace. Make that a chore-and-a-half as the sprayer attachment was broken.

I watched TV instead, watching last night's first-run SNL that was so-so, with the possible exception of the skit of Giuliani's fart (followed by the real thing). Oh, how the mighty have tumbled. And he's emulating his very good buddy by having contracted the virus. Talk about dedication. ::shudders:: Ugh.

One of the highlights of my day was having people commenting on FB that it was nice to have me drop in, including a former deacon who has not always been the most compassionate person. So I guess I'll call that a win.

If my body would like to be compassionate tomorrow, I would surely appreciate it. Sigh. Negotiating with a hostage-taker is a frustrating task. ::crosses fingers::
Let's begin with long and glorious. After nodding off to sleep at my usual 1-ishness, I was still asleep at 11:27 when S. nocked on my door, asking a favour. Oh, I needed that sleep so much.

After I finally got going, I busied myself with little things, such as hanging up a couple of dresses that were mixed in with coats on my rack. After that, I put away the rotating sets of summer bedding and retrieved the lovely, heavy red flannel set. I'll put it on tomorrow. I sent an email to the woman who'd sent me the card I got yesterday. I received an email from my sis RS this morning asking for my address, so I guess I'll be getting one from her, too.

The only thing I didn't get around to doing was emailing Brian to see if we could have some time on the phone tomorrow as he was busy baking today. There was a virtual Santa Claus parade filmed at Canada's Wonderland so I recorded it. Then I was frustrated trying to get on FB so I could click the link on the church's virtual concert. I couldn't get it on the desktop, the iPad was being impossible, so I watched the first few numbers on my phone - which does not have Smart Invert. Sigh. I'll try again tomorrow.

My vision improved a titch since yesterday. Today, I can see yellow font against a blurred dark sage background. Let's just say that watching the season premiere of MacGyver wasn't a very cohesive experience. Come on, body, you fought off most of the pain; now gimme some sight! I know, the little piggies of the universe will get right on it. /sarcasm.
No, I'm not delusional, but I was anxious for my own personal Santa (aka church-John) to bring me nutritious goodies as well as "treats". He finally came today, bearing three bottles of Robax, one of Omega 3s, two litres of juice, a few boxes of granola bars … and ::swoons:: chocolate-covered macadamia nuts and another box of assorted candy. Now the trick will be to keep my paws off. But I'm still going to ask Brian to order chocolates for me, this time from a company in TO. I'd looked them up online yesterday and the rep for my meals provider vouched for them yesterday. Ah - networking through all nooks and crannies: gotta love it.

So Santa was being prudent when he entered the house wearing a mask, but removed it in my space. He said I should be okay against the virus in my private space. But-but-but I'm still lonely. Still, I enjoyed impressing him with the vibrant colours on my computer, so that was a big yay.

Another big yay was watching first-run programs on TV tonight, including this week's weepy epi of ST: Disco and Dragons' Den where one pitch involved two sleek guys who revealed their revolutionary swimsuit, the ::giggles:: brokini! Imagine a very tiny one shoulder strap caveman costume.

I engaged in a tiny bit of nostalgia when I went into FB. I didn't know an old (50 years ago) friend had sent me a friend request 7 weeks ago. We'd already reconnected 10 years ago but then he got skittish over FB rules and stopped posting. So I confirmed him. Anyway, the day is nearly over and I'm about to have soup before midnight. It seems to assist in a deeper sleep.
Sigh. Let's include the 3:25 a.m. silent screaming blues. Thankful that two more pills calmed the spasms and I slept until the alarm at 9:20.

In the early evening, I tried to connect to the special chocolate maker in Niagara so I could place an online order before Christmas. Um, getting a 404 Error response is not what I wanted to see. So I texted Brian. He replied that they appear to be going through some kind of restructuring. Arrgghh. I then tried to find chocolatiers in TO. Oh, sure, I can order online - but for curbside pickup only. Uh-huh. I tried some more sites but had trouble to read stuff on the screen. So, I'm giving up trying to order gifties (both for myself and others). I guess that was a hope too far.

Adding to my disappointment is that my vision kept leeching colour. Yesterday's bright yellow was now fuzzy white. Glossy black is not snowy charcoal. Sigh. It's the shortest duration of recreational use of atropine ever.

Anyway, I still watched my usual TV shows including tonight's retro N.C.I.S. with younger versions of Gibbs and Ducky featuring prominently. I was also delighted by a cooking video on Slog where the cook used Thanksgiving leftovers to create a soup with stuffing turning into dumplings, a salad with croutons being made from compressed stuffing, and the most outrageous was a sandwich with cranberry mayo, warmed breast meat, dark meat in gravy, mashed potatoes (perhaps another couple of ingredients), all between two hefty slices of bread. I was impressed!

Anyway, what will impress me the most is having my pills work tonight. ::begs the universe::
So, let's begin with the mind. After missing a couple of Final Jeopardy clues even though I knew the identity of the person but couldn't remember the name (e.g. key and lightning but not Ben Franklin and prosecutor of Jean Valjean but not Javert), my faith in my ability to recall things - especially music - was restored as I finally solved the earworm from Thursday's Young Sheldon. While Sheldon is in the middle of a quandary, there was this driving music in the background. I first thought it was from Glee but then recalled it was a flash mob during America's Got Talent. Still don't know the name of it.

Anyway, even though the vision was only so-so, I watched ST: Disco (even though S. had to explain what happened at the salvage place) and got something out of Battle of the Blades.

I was too tired to post on Friday - just before my electronic disaster on Saturday. I restarted my computer and allowed Windows 10 to update. Uh-oh. Windows was refusing to talk to ZoomText, leaving me with no method of accessing any browsers or files or anything. ::shrieks::

I couldn't get in touch with Brian because I checked FB on my phone and saw he was visiting his sisters and toddler nephews, so I figured I would wait until yesterday to text him of my woes.

In the meantime, SuM, S. and I planned to watch "Aquaman" on Netflix Sunday night. I thought it was a stupid movie with all those explosions underwater. But it wasted a few hours. I'd asked if S. could visit me to see if there were things she could do, because I can't read the screen.

So, today, after S. tried and failed to resolve things, I texted Brian again. He phoned back. Oh, joy, he took today off as a holiday. With him on speakerphone and S. at my keyboard (and Brian eventually taking over control remotely), I had my ZoomText uninstalled with colours applied through Ease of Access (huh, can't they call it Accessibility?), so I can now read everything more clearly than before in browsers, but not documents. I guess I'll have to tackle that independently. It was a little insulting to learn that my version of ZT is considered "Legacy" aka Ancient!

Anyway, I'm just finally relaxing and watching TV. I think I'll watch Bull and then collapse. I need to scrape my freezer tomorrow morning before I get more (yummy) meals delivered.
Oh, I really appreciated getting a bit more than two hours of sleep before waking up with searing pain at 4:30 a.m. Definitely a night on which to swallow two more Robax. Only then was I able to sleep all the way to 8:15.

But the pain was a constant companion during the day as I alternated between bed and computer where I actually had a lot to do for the blind group. Otherwise, I just watched endless TV which did little to distract me from the pain. It was only around 9 p.m. when my torso began to feel human again. I'd also replied to church-John's email, bt only after I could type without writhing.

It's such an odd Halloween. There were some marvellous reinterpretations shown during the news. One City Councillor arranged for a drive-through treats distribution of packages that contained not only candy but also a Covide survival kit. I don't know what SuM and S. did … but I didn't hear the doorbell ring even once.

Anyway, I think I need some cookies to cheer me up. And then better sleepn than last night.
Well, I'm currently in my satin and lace nightie while "attending" the bling group's Halloween Zoom party. We began with listening to a radio play adaptation of "Frankenstein" and their our DJ played music while people chatted. I'm still waiting for The Monster Mash. I'm trying to be patient.

Spent most of the day in bed as my body was going haywire. Church-John sent me an email that he was going to enjoy having my special parking permit until he returns it.

The best part of last night was having exquisite vision. At midnight. So I stayed up to watch Discovery and really enjoyed it. This morning I watched Battle of the Blades even though my vision had devolved to crap. Easy come, easy go.

Anyway, time to get back to the party.
How can that be, blondie? You usually get so aggravated. Yes, yes, but today everything worked out for the best. Church-John showed up at noon and we were off to the nearest drugstore-cum-mini-supermarket. Though we were initially told that there were no more spots available for a flu shot today, by the time c-J finished completing the registration form, the pharmacist said there was an opening Right. Now. Whoopie! I remembered to keep my arm relaxed and I swear it was almost like a Trek hypospray. Didn't feel a thing. The pharmacist assured me the needle had been very, VERY sharp.

After that, we wandered through the unfamiliar store. I'd given c-J my written list and we found exactly what I wanted or a reasonable substitute - except for pineapple. When we checked out, my total was $147 which included about $20 in the Thursday Seniors' discount that applied to most food, too - and I also received a $10 gift card!

The only downer? We drove over to our fave patio, found the lights on, but all doors locked. So the place may have bit the dust after decades. C-J drove me home and we lugged it all in. Then he went home - to lie down! As did I for hours, because the spasms were bad. Sigh. But, true to form, my vision was pretty fabulous, even if I wasted it on recorded TV. I'm going to try to stay up for a while to take advantage of it.
So who was lost and found? None other than church-John who didn't reply to me until mid afternoon, saying he had to go home because he'd spilled coffee over a new shirt. Uh, c-J, are you SURE you're okay? Anyway, he kept ignoring my question about taking me to the drugstore, and was only mentioning the Costo purchases. So, finally, FINALLY, he said he'd be over at noon tomorrow. In the meantime, I'd already gotten dressed. Sigh. So that was the aggravation in my day.

But, then the pain came at me with a vengeance. So back to bed with me to watch TV. The only relief was spotting a memory from a year ago on FB that was picked up by a church friend missing the beautiful summaries I used to post every week. Ah, that was lovely to hear praise but, alas, I've retired from that self-imposed burden task. I'll have to thank him tomorrow. Now I'm waiting for the pills to kick in.
Well, let's just say that yesterday was so bad I had to obliterate the memory of it and the pain. So, it was such bliss to wake up this morning without a single twinge or ache. As always, I'm astounded by my body's ability for self-repair as I sleep. Now if only I could prolong the feeling....

No. Such. Luck. The only thing that kept me going was the anticipation of a visit from church-John, even though neither of us reconfirmed. Yeah, you guessed it. No c-J. At least I hadn't bothered getting dressed, remaining cocooned in my towel and cozy capelet. I sent him an email wondering what had happened but received no response. So now I have to worry if something happened to him. Sigh.

Watched my usual shows and then dozed off. That also amazes me when I can nod off despite the pain. But I'll be happy for my pills in a few minutes and then crawling back to bed.
The only good thing about yesterday was sleeping until 7:25ish while in the middle of a dream. This time, I don't know how old I was but I was living with a Greek family. Someone was about to make home-made dolmades and I was so happy. Someone else had tossed a couple of banana peels and two avocado half shells where garbage was supposed to go. Even though I was disgusted, I picked up the remains and put them in the organics bin. Yes, I was being very helpful. You'd think I should get a reward IRL. Apparently not. Instead it was screaming pain. All on the inside.

Somehow, at least the amnesia piggies were harde at work, allowing me to sleep as they leeched the pain out of my poor muscles. And I slept all the way to 7:45. As my vision was almost tolerable, I watched last night's Discovery before brekkie. This afternoon, I watched Battle of the Blades. Also spoke with S. but she and SuM already knew about "The Prom" which we'll be watching on Netflix in December. Can't wait to see the divine Streep on screen again.

Well, that was the extent of my placid mind before the spasms started up again. Sigh. And then my remote slid off the bed so I had to bend over to search for it. Screams are now intensifying into shrieks. Still silent.

Speaking of silent, I forwarded my email from earlier this week to church-John again. He said he never received it. But, dear man, why does the header indicate it was sent? Anyway, he thinks we can go out on Tuesday. I can't wait. And, now, I can finally take my pills and go "Ahhh".
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